Anger, I was told was a very bad thing. I was taught that only those who had not fully given themselves to God, had it! Sadly, for quite a bit of my life, I carried so much guilt and shame around that.
What I’ve since learned is:
Anger isn’t a waste of energy; it isn’t worthless; it isn’t bad or negative; it simply is…
We are alright to get angry…to allow ourselves to feel anger. Anger is an emotion.
It is our action/choices when angry that can be negative. May we not cause ourselves, or others, harm.
Anger is valid. Anger serves a purpose: it typically highlights something that needs our attention.
Find healthy ways for your mind, body, heart to process anger: therapy, spiritual guidance, a support group…
Almost always, anger is a secondary emotion.
Find out what’s behind that anger. Is it hurt, sadness, disappointment, fear…childhood trauma?
Take time to process and talk through the anger. You’re not alone in it. We’re on this journey together: processing, learning, growing – on the daily.
Common Day Hero: You are faithful in the small things. Even when life threw so much negative your way, you remained steady, especially in faith. Grateful for your words of truth always. Sharonda, I dedicate this post to you.