Have you ever found yourself in a toxic environment? Did it seem like being in a dark room for a long time and then suddenly the curtains were opened or a wall was knocked out, unexpectedly?<\/p>\n
I know it’s different for each of us…when light comes in and we start seeing what we didn’t even know was present, but hidden or masked\/disguised.<\/p>\n
In the beginning, when toxicity is new whether it’s gaslighting, manipulation, verbal, mental, emotional, physical control and\/or so much more, it may seem exciting…especially when dysfunction is all we’ve experienced or seen.<\/p>\n
We may feel a rush of excitement; however slight or momentary…we may accept that this rush is fundamental to relationships. We may squash ourselves (turtle behavior) or over-exert ourselves (tiger behavior) to be seen\/heard.<\/p>\n
We may also vacillate between the two behaviors depending on the environment.<\/p>\n
A friend and I were talking recently about relationships and she said, at this point, she would rather live fully in the space in-between<\/em> silence and screaming. I could relate.<\/p>\n When I didn’t hold value and love for myself, I found myself longing and desperately looking for approval, affirmation and affection in relationships that were never truly for<\/em> me.<\/p>\n Once I embraced myself fully in Love and Light from The Divine, I no longer needed human approval, affirmation or\u00a0 affection because I began walking in the Truth that Heaven has me. I AM free!<\/p>\n Everything YOU need is already within you because Truth empowers, heals, brings freedom and liberty.<\/p>\n Toxic no longer equals excitement once we commit to heal.<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n Give yourself the space you need. Step back and see more clearly the spaces you occupy by choice ~ are they Truth-filled spaces of Love and Light? If not, are you ready to step out and away<\/em> from all the toxicity (regardless of how long an individual or org has been in your life?).<\/p>\n Courage to you dear Warrior, may you choose your own health (emotional, mental, spiritual, physical) over length of relationships\/ties.<\/p>\n Freedom, Fortitude and Foresight to you on the journey.<\/p>\n Common Day Hero:<\/strong><\/em><\/span> You are so intelligent, eloquent and kind. Many have been (and are) changed for the better because of your commitment to excellence in service; I’m among those. Today, I dedicate this post to you, DanaB.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Have you ever found yourself in a toxic environment? Did it seem like being in a dark room for a long time and then suddenly the curtains were opened or a wall was knocked out, unexpectedly? I know it’s different for each of us…when light comes in and we start seeing what we didn’t even…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":3487,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"nf_dc_page":"","om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[9,28,51,267,8,268,266,60],"class_list":["post-3485","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-uncategorized","tag-breathe","tag-healing","tag-resilience","tag-resilient","tag-selfcare","tag-tenacity","tag-toxic","tag-warrior"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/lalijean.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/pablo-stanic-d_ofZt3AxwM-unsplash.jpg?fit=1920%2C1534&ssl=1","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"post_mailing_queue_ids":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/lalijean.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3485","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/lalijean.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/lalijean.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lalijean.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lalijean.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=3485"}],"version-history":[{"count":5,"href":"https:\/\/lalijean.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3485\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3507,"href":"https:\/\/lalijean.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3485\/revisions\/3507"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lalijean.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/3487"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/lalijean.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=3485"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lalijean.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=3485"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lalijean.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=3485"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}