May 14, 2021

perspective

This week had me revisiting the definitions of Perspective and Perception.

Perspective: a point of view; a sense of proportion. Perception: a way of regarding, understanding or interpreting…

In this sudden change/disruption of what seemed solid…what seemed unshakeable in my own life, I have been working to view it all from multiple directions.

For the most part, we naturally see things from our own perspective, but I have been curious about every angle, for as long as I can remember. Sidenote: Curiosity wasn’t necessarily encouraged but has remained a constant companion for me, since childhood.

Despite the deep pain and sadness which, at times, has been so heavy, I have been taking time to view the good, the bad, the ugly, the shocking through lenses opposite mine.

Since the divorce process started, I’ve been doing this regarding all aspects – the years prior to marriage, the engagement months, the life and death of the marriage.

I’ve heard it said that perception is reality.

Are we open to genuinely view our perception/reality from all angles? If not, are we limiting ourselves in some way?

Many words have been thrown at me, but I carefully hold it all up to the Light and see if Truth is present.

If no Truth is present, I find healthy ways to release (so that my body isn’t holding on to the negatives). If Truth is present, I take the time to process so that I can begin applying it to my life.

Some moments/days it may be too difficult to see a different view and that is alright.

Breathe. Take your time.

Be gentle with yourself

and

Challenge your Perception to gain true Perspective.

A healthy perspective keeps us grounded/centered/secure.

Positive energy, Prayers and Power to you as you move forward to face all angles of Perception (yours, mine, theirs, ours!), discard the lies, process the Truth and gain Perspective.

Common Day Hero: You have consistently been a Champion for humans, but especially women. Your boldness, brilliant mind and brave heart are the cause of freedom for many. I AM committed to warring alongside (and for) you.  JuR, I dedicate this post to you.

May 7, 2021

full

Welcome/Vanakkam! Namaste!

Many of us may simply be existing.

We serve and give so much. We stay busy doing for others. We run around and run ourselves ragged to take care of everything around us.

Seems, we don’t realize that all of the running and doing and pushing ourselves has us depleted and too preoccupied to see that we are running on empty.

Continually coming from a place of empty sets us up for burn-out, lashing out, raging and severely damaging those who have been/are closest to us.

I’ve been an empath for as long as I can remember (even though growing up, I didn’t know that term). The way I feel/sense energy and absorb it was frustrating until I sought out tools to completely embrace being an empath and began learning how to relate as well as release all that isn’t mine to carry.

It has been my life’s work to be a diligent listener, a safe space, a consistent asker of questions because it is of utmost importance that each voice is heard.

Questions help gently guide so that each person wrestles with all that needs to be faced, worked through/processed and then finds the answer within the process.

Friends say I’m a good counselor, especially with the listening and a natural coach, with all the questions!

And now…the path has led me to embrace being a personal, life (college, career, cravings, relationships, all of it!) and spiritual coach. I have been unofficially doing the work of coaching and mentoring for over twenty years.

I have decided to do what I love because I already love what I do! I would be honored to come alongside you on your journey and co-create plans with you so that your dreams become goals and your vision becomes reality!

I believe that we can live our most fulfilled lives, serving and giving when we are Led from a place of being FULL.

My personal acronym: Free, Unlimited, Light, Love (FULL)!

We will take the steps together so that you can begin moving towards FULL…living your life from a healthy base of love, joy, peace and gratitude. You can then (as you are Led), serve and give to those around you from the saucer because your cup is FULL and overflowing!

Picture yourself FULL!

I’m offering an introductory special of $75/session. Call or text to schedule your appointment today – 469.585.3723

Common Day Hero: BridgetteP and FeliciaG, there are moments that seem ordinary -nothing special occurs externally and yet, something quite substantial and much deeper than can be articulated has occurred/is occurring internally/spiritually/next level. That’s what took place when we met. Supernaturally orchestrated. Divinely dispatched. Here’s to ALL that Heaven has for us, now and for eternity! I dedicate this post to you, my Soul SistAHs!

April 30, 2021

random

The timing of The Divine is impeccable.

There are no accidents…no mistakes…

Random is code for Divinely purposed.

This week, letting the Truth of all the above settle in…deep breath!

Anything “random” happen for you this week, month, year?

If it was positive, I rejoice with you.

If it was negative, I feel the weight of it with you and weep with you.

Regarding the negatives, I cannot begin to understand all the reasons why. I just know that in this world…here, on this earth, we will have troubles. I send hugs (or dap); I send comfort, Light and Love your way if you can receive it.

I know some spaces are too difficult for words and I want to respect the space you may be in now.

When you are ready, Love and Light are here for you. Always.

Common Day Hero: When you heard, you immediately offered support. You’re always here to help, but especially when this recent crisis hit so unexpectedly and much harder than I ever could’ve imagined. I AM grateful to have you in my life. “They” say German shepherds are easy-going and approachable among family, so today’s photo is for you! My cousin, Kolin, I dedicate this post to you.

April 23, 2021

loyalty

On tax day, last week, I received the divorce decree.

I can’t even begin to describe the journey of accepting a situation I didn’t want.

Is a marriage of seventeen years really over now? I read the email and like an avalanche, every emotion seemed to come at once…disbelief. shock. overwhelming sadness. tears enough to overflow a bathtub. anger enough to pull all the feathers out of a down pillow. relief from the exhaustion of being in a tense environment for such a long time. inexplicable pain…every moment, precarious.

I heard someone say (many someoneS actually!) that people don’t discard what they want; they discard what they were using. Have you ever felt that – not just in romantic relationships…in friendships, with co-workers, with acquaintances, with family members (immediate, extended, in-laws)?

I am processing to the best of my ability. Quite the mountain/landfill. Pain and Peace coexist in this moment for me. Grief and Gratitude coexist. Fear and Faith coexist. Heaven and Hell coexist. I am experiencing it all…fully.

Pain – I can not believe the depth and intensity. It is heart-wrenching. Peace – I AM held by The Divine.

Grief – I said yes to forever…too many layers here. Gratitude – for painful Truth being revealed and manifested…for true/deep friendships.

Fear – what does this mean for me and my kids? Faith – We are alright, even in this. Secure in The Divine.

Hell – walking through it is overwhelming, frustrating, exhausting. Heaven – always by my side; the Warriors, my ancestors, that Great Cloud of Witnesses and true friends here beside me…with grace and love.

In this processing, came another realization: Loyalty shows up especially in the difficult.

If loyalty wasn’t present then we were used, in some way. That realization led me to sort through all that I personally need to own as well as everything that’s not on me.

We are only responsible for our own choices.

I continue to learn and grow and keep myself open to the opportunities that guide me to be my authentic/best self.

Dear one, I hold out grace for you to continue to be your authentic self as well. Regardless of the naysayers, Strength and Peace to you as you do the difficult work of consistently pursuing authenticity. Here, for and with you, always.

Common Day Hero: We have so much more in common than we originally thought! Praise Abba for bringing you into my life for all the moments (too many to name!). You remain a comforting Light in the midst of unexpected darkness. You are such a kind and beautiful soul. KerriH, I dedicate this post to you.

April 16, 2021

shakti

Many situations in life are both-and (as opposed to either-or)…in my life, especially this season, there have been moments (too many to count) when I felt powerless.

I believe that I AM powerful.

Shakti is a Sanskrit word meaning power, sacred force, energy, empowerment.

I heard someone recently say that she doesn’t need external empowerment when she has empowerment from within; that resonated with me. Again, both-and…there are moments when the external/additional is valuable, but…

Always, what fuels and carries me is shakti (power/empowerment from within; the very sacred force of heaven).

I AM powerful (inserting raised fist).

I may not agree with or even want what is happening to/around me. I may not like or understand the abrupt and unwelcome changes coming my way; Truth remains: I AM powerful.

I AM powerful not because I can stop negative/hurtful things, but because I do not allow them to define me.

I AM powerful because I process each and every difficult thing so that I can move forward.

I AM powerful because it is the very essence of who I am; a part of my core.

I AM powerful because fill in your personal reminder…to carry you in and through the messy moments.

Shakti (power, sacred force, energy, empowerment) to you my fellow Warrior ~ as we war alongside one other against all negatives intent on keeping us down. Here, for and with, you…always!

Common Day Hero: Harilals, yes, the whole family…I want to express my gratitude for the practical ways you’ve stepped in to help me. In my younger years, I felt so confident and independent. Without realizing it, over time, I allowed that to be taken away…sigh. Daily I’m gaining strength, choosing courage (more than not) and so thankful for all that you continue to be: my prayer warriors, my all-things-practical group, my emergency rescue team (perceived and otherwise!) and my common sense crew when unexpected trauma blindsided me. Today, I dedicate this post to all of you.

April 9, 2021

new

When we’re told that all things are made new, it may not always translate to unfolding how we envisioned it.

Today, I’m thinking specifically of Verses nineteen through twenty-one, in the forty-third Chapter of the Book of Isaiah, in The Bible. Translations vary and I reference so many, but in this moment, it’s the ESV.

“Behold, I am doing a new thing; now it springs forth, do you not perceive (see) it? I will make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert. The wild beasts will honor me, the jackals and the ostriches, for I give water in the wilderness, rivers in the desert, to give drink to my chosen people, the people whom I formed for myself that they might declare my praise.” 

The imagery is so beautiful to me…it’s calming. The reassuring piece for me is that I will not be stuck in the wilderness. Also, for whatever length of time I’m in the wilderness, I will be given what I need…sustenance.

If/when I’m in the desert, a place that typically has very little water, I will see rivers! Nourishment and strength will be provided for my time there.

All the animals around me bring praise and adoration to The Creator of life and all things sacred. I join them in worship and celebration of The Divine.

In the desert…in the wilderness…in unfamiliar, deeply painful and rough terrain, I AM fully taken care of…completely provided for…always. And so are you, fellow Warrior!

Common Day Hero: Many may never know the level of sacrifice and honor you provide on a daily basis. You are seen, by many including El-Roi. I salute you, fellow Warrior. Madalyn, I dedicate this post to you.

April 2, 2021

easter

When I think of or hear the word “easter”, I think of HOPE.

Heavenly

Oxygen

Permeating

Earth!

For me, Easter says, Surprise! It ain’t ova! The story continues…death does not prevail…Yeshu lives!

This Good Friday (it’s sad Friday in my heart language; don’t know who decided which cultures would call it good or sad!). I believe it’s Good Friday because of the HOPE we hold and at the same time it’s sad Friday because of the deep pain the day brought.

Feel the sadness. Grieve. Release. Grieve as long as you need (no formula).

I see the arms of Yeshu extended out for a hug; kind eyes, gentle smile…no fear, just love. When I fall into that embrace, HOPE becomes Eternal for me.

Many have tried to squash it, but HOPE can’t be taken…it is inextricably a part of me!

So, I hold out HOPE to you dear heart.

Close your eyes, breathe it in because HOPE is never false; always real/alive/beckoning!

Common Day Hero: I cannot begin to understand all the ways The Divine moves. I know that I have been forever changed. I know that HOPE brings healing. Your very presence brought to light things that had been buried for so long. Yeshu moves in an inexplicably beautiful way through you. Lanie, I dedicate this post to you. 

March 26, 2021

Amma

WOman…Sister…Daughter…Confidant…Mother…Divine!

Last weekend, I saw Amma…again. It wasn’t that I saw a face; just felt such overwhelming Love from The Divine as Mother for/to me…and my circle.

I was raised to believe that The Divine is Abba and Amma (Father and Mother).

But when I embraced and mentioned God as Mother to me, some were immediately uncomfortable…nervous. The very people who taught me verses about God not being male or female squirmed hearing Amma/Mother.

IF God is limitless, then The Divine is not limited to a masculine or feminine form.

I AM reminded again that it’s both-and…not either-or, even in this!

Abba/Amma be with you…always.

Common Day Hero: The kindness, hospitality, beauty, strength and unconditional/fierce Love of Amma is so evident in the way you live. It is an honor to have you in my circle. MilliC, I dedicate this post to you.

March 19, 2021

daughter

I have posted every Friday since FEB twenty-twenty. It’s early Saturday AM now and finally posting because the internet has decided to cooperate…everything unfolds in the perfect timing of the Divine so here ’tis!

Embrace the Leader within…

first, foremost and forever, I AM a child of God. More specifically, a daughter of Yeshu!

Regardless of all the names and/or titles humans take from me, daughter can never be taken away!

Hugs to you fellow child of God (insert praying hands/namaste)…for me personally, namaste is I greet you as my equal. I salute The Divine within you…image bearer!

Common Day Hero: Reassuring, comforting, safe…a few words that describe time with you and yours. Grateful for the way Our Great Spirit gently guides, kindly reveals and miraculously heals. Britton, I dedicate this post to you.

March 12, 2021

pursue

With all that is before us…a seemingly endless list of possibilities, what continued to come to me this week was, pursue kindness.

That my friends, is difficult beyond expression when kindness is not what’s being thrown my way. And as my kids will tell you, a lalism they’ve grown up hearing is “difficult, but not impossible”. sigh.

This first quarter of twenty-twenty1 found me taking so many more deep breaths. Deep being the operative word! With all the arrows and darts of unkindness coming my way, I had to repeatedly (multiple times a day) remind myself to be gentle and kind to myself.

Only when we pursue kindness for our own hearts can we genuinely and fully extend kindness to others.

It seems regardless of culture, heritage or background, we’re told to be kind to others. While that’s good, I feel there is no solid base if we aren’t first kind to our own selves.

It’s back to The Bible…love your neighbor as yourself. If we don’t love ourselves, we won’t be kind to ourselves and we’re not really a help to our neighbors (across the street and around the globe).

For years, I was seeking kindness from others, but not giving kindness to my own heart. I was raised with no margin for error, no room at all for mistakes…perfection was required.

I failed miserably in that environment and sadly, was so unkind in my words…to self and others. Buried underneath all the “right words” and rules was a kind heart just waiting to be set free…to simply breathe.

A few years ago, I chose something different. I chose kindness for myself and it began/continues to grow like a field of beautiful flowers available to all around me.

I learned to listen more, to ask more questions (rather than make statements) and I began redirecting myself. As soon as unkind words, blame and shame enter my mind, I take time to evaluate it all.

I hold up all dark words to the Light and give myself time (sit with it) to see if there’s any Truth there. I no longer feel anxiety to rush and “fix” things. I AM at peace.

After I’ve taken time to evaluate it all, I say you can leave now or I say, that’s a lie; I only cling to Truth. I also say, that’s not me. I have literally done a little jig to “shake off” the negativity from me and my space!

It is alright to acknowledge when I have chosen to be helpful or hurtful to myself and others. It is alright for me to evaluate and change course as necessary so that I’m living fully from a place of kindness and love.

I need not spin in guilt, anxiety, shame, what-ifs, fear or allow ridicule and condescending voices to “take over” my mind. I can let all the feelings out and not accept the negative roots that are trying to settle into my space.

This is what has worked/is working for me – evaluate. sit with/face it all (take all the time your heart needs). release. speak/write/sing/dance Truth…repeat!

Are you kind to yourself, dear one? What helps you choose kindness? Even in the difficult moments when the accusing, shaming, hurtful, fill in the blank voices seem so loud, what helps you cling to Truth?

Close your eyes with me. Embrace kindness for your heart.

Once embraced, kindness flows like cool, refreshing waters to your heart as often as you wish and you now have the ability to extend it generously to all.

Common Day Hero: Your prayers continue to encourage and strengthen me. As soon as you heard about my pain, you were here. I can’t begin to express all the ways that filled my heart. JessicaS, I dedicate this post to you.

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