For much of my life I attempted to fit in…somewhere. I was told and then felt as if I was either too much or not enough in ev.er.y setting. Fitting in had me constantly looking around and adjusting (my laugh, hair, personality and many other choices) in hopes of acceptance into a group (familial, social, spiritual, online).
I was born in America. I’m a curry girl (Indian, from India, dots not feathers; much love to all my feathers!). Growing up in America, some experiences left me feeling like an outsider because of the color of my skin, my ethnicity or the accent I picked up on every visit to India (coz I just cain’t hold on to an accent if I’m around another one for an extended time!).
When my family visited/lived in India, I was viewed as an outsider because I was “American”. In America, I was “Indian” so I just didn’t fit in anywhere.
I have always talked with and spent time with a wide variety of individuals (even in childhood and teen years). I never felt like I fit in anywhere. I was always the “visitor” and can’t remember feeling at “home”.
In my fortieth year, I chose to do the difficult and painful work of facing, acknowledging and freeing my heart. That work, helped me realize that I don’t need to “fit”…into any space. I set aside the weight of “fitting in” and embraced the Truth that I fully belong to the Divine.
I belong to the Divine! I belong to the Divine! I belong to the Divine!
That is my solace, my peace, my joy! No more sitting in a state of paralysis from fear of what others may think or say to me (or behind my back!). Regardless of what happens, the Divine has accepted me and I truly belong!
Embracing the Truth of belonging gives me the joy of fully being present with ALL people.
I am not accepted, liked or loved by all and that is completely alright because I no longer seek human validation, approval or acceptance. Everything I choose to do in my life is entirely from a place of belonging.
What steps can we take this week to set aside every weight, breathe in the Truth and remind ourselves that we belong to the Divine?
Common Day Hero: We were destined to be friends. You were so much fun, so full of life and such a free spirit. I miss you immensely. I pray for you and will hold you close always. My dear Robin Anne, I dedicate this post to you.
